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Window Over the Sink by @LizFlaherty1 is a Super Sale pick #essays #sale #99cents #99c #giveaway



Title: Window Over the Sink


Author: Liz Flaherty


Genre: Essays


Book Blurb:


It’s been nearly ten years since we retired. I’m still in the office Duane and the boys created for me. The seven quilts I promised to make have been completed. A few books. He has new knees and new guitars. We’ve had grief and loss in these years, occasional discontent, times of being alone even when we were together. We’ve also had a blessed amount of fun. Of music and laughter and family. Of the other side of being alone that comes of knowing we never really are. Much has changed in those nine years and change, and much has stayed the same. At first, it seemed as if this book was a vanity thing. Or a thing for the grandkids to look at and think Okay, Nana, what do you want me to do with this? But in the end, like most other things in life that are worthwhile, it is a labor of love. A gathering of thoughts and dreams and memories. Thanks for joining me on the journey.


Excerpt:


A REAL THING


“Love is an ideal thing. Marriage is a real thing.”

~~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe


On September 28, 1935, my parents went to a minister’s house and got married. My dad wore a double-breasted suit and my mom had on a hat. They stayed married through the rest of the Great Depression and three wars, through the births of six children and the death of one at the age of three, through failing health and the loss of all their parents and some of my father’s siblings. Dad died in 1981, Mom in 1982. They were still married.


From the viewpoint of their youngest child, who was born when they were in their early 40s and they thought they were finished with all that, it was the marriage from hell. I never saw them as a loving couple, never saw them laugh together or show affection or even hold hands. They didn’t buy each other gifts, sit on the couch together, or bring each other cups of coffee. The only thing I was sure they shared was that—unlike my husband and me—they didn’t cancel out each other’s vote on Election Day.


“Why on earth,” I asked my sister once, “did they stay together all those years? Mom could have gone home to her family, even if she did have to take a whole litter of kids. Heaven knows Dad could have.” (He was the adored youngest son and brother—he could do no wrong.)


Nancy gave me the look all youngest siblings know, the one that says, “Are you stupid?” When you’re grown up, it replaces the look that says, “You’re a nasty little brat.” But I digress.


“Don’t you get it?” my sister asked. Her blue eyes softened. So did her voice. “They loved each other. Always. They just didn’t do it the way you wanted them to.”


Oh.


I remembered then. When they stopped for ice cream because Mom loved ice cream. How they sat the kitchen table across from each other drinking coffee. How thin my dad got during Mom’s long illness because “I can’t eat if she can’t.” When they watched Lawrence Welk reruns together loud because—although neither would admit it—their hearing was seriously compromised.


And the letters. The account of their courtship. We found them after Mom’s death, kept in neat stacks. They wrote each other, in those days of multiple daily mail deliveries, at least once a day and sometimes twice. When I read those letters, I cried because I’d never known the people who wrote them.


I have to admit, my parents’ lives had nothing to do with why I chose to write romantic fiction. I got my staunch belief in Happily Ever After from my own marriage, not theirs. But how you feel about things and what you know—those change over the years.


As much as I hated my parents’ marriage—and I truly did hate it—I admire how they stuck with it. I’ve never appreciated the love they had for each other, but I’ve come to understand that it never ended. I still feel sorry sometimes for the little girl I was, whose childhood was so far from storybook that she wrote her own, but I’m so grateful to have become the adult I am. The one who still writes her own stories.


But—and this is the good part—these are the things I know.


Saying “I love you” doesn’t always require words. Sometimes it’s being unable to eat because someone else isn’t. Sometimes it’s stopping for ice cream. Sometimes—and I realized this the other day when my husband and I were bellowing “Footloose” in the car—it’s hearing music the same way, regardless of how it sounds to anyone else.


Marriage is different for different people. So is love. So is Happily Ever After.


Happy Anniversary, Mom and Dad.


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E-book on sale for 99 cents through 10/09







What makes your featured book a must-read?


It’s a comfort read, which sounds pretty tame. And it is, but mostly when you read an essay, you will have been in that place in life. I hope you enjoy going back to visit.


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Runs September 20 – September 28, 2022.


Winner will be drawn on September 29, 2022.



Author Biography:


Liz Flaherty is rather bewildered by where she’s at in life. She doesn’t feel…er…elderly, but the truth is that she is. The Magnificent Seven grands have grown up on her, her own kids are all now older than she is, and her husband Duane has the same firm hold on her heart he’s always had.


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12 Comments


andreadrake1
andreadrake1
Sep 26, 2022

What I love most about book sales is finding new author!

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Liz Flaherty
Liz Flaherty
Sep 26, 2022
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It's a way to get started with one, isn't it? :-)

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kara
kara
Sep 21, 2022

Your book sounds great! I love the title.

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Liz Flaherty
Liz Flaherty
Sep 22, 2022
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Thanks, Kara! I thought I was so original when I titled my column. Come to find out, Peg Bracken had beaten my by years!

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Barbara Bettis
Sep 21, 2022

Sounds like a lovely book, Liz. So glad you shared it with us.

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Liz Flaherty
Liz Flaherty
Sep 22, 2022
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Thank you, Barb! It's always nice to see you.

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Mary Schiller
Mary Schiller
Sep 21, 2022

What a beautiful story and description of your parents' love! It's nice that you gained insight rather than going your whole life not understanding. Thanks for sharing your story with us!

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Liz Flaherty
Liz Flaherty
Sep 22, 2022
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Thanks, Mary. It definitely took some time.

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Rita Wray
Rita Wray
Sep 21, 2022

I liked the excerpt.

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Liz Flaherty
Liz Flaherty
Sep 22, 2022
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Thank you! I hope you try the book while it's on sale!

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