Title: Ask: How to Relate to Anyone
Author: Dan Solin
Genre: Self Improvement, Personal Growth
I’m best known for writing investment books (I wrote the Smartest series), so what prompted the shift into the self-help genre?
It was largely to help myself.
I used to believe what I was saying was more important than what I was hearing. Instead of really listening, I was usually waiting for the other person to stop talking. My interactions were like two billiard balls bouncing off each other.
Then I did some research. What I found was stunning.
When we empower others to talk about themselves, the brain activity in those people is similar to when they’re engaged in their most pleasurable activities. Talking about yourself releases certain hormones that make you feel good. Doing so causes you to project traits of likeability and trustworthiness onto the person who encourages you to talk.
In my own life, implementing my findings has increased my level of personal happiness and deepened my relationships. People project the nicest qualities onto me, like kindness, thoughtfulness, and insight, whenever I encourage them to talk about themselves. The next logical step in my journey was to share that research with you.
That’s why I wrote Ask.
This book isn't just an effective tool for business, it's a great tool for life. Be prepared to have your mind broadened in an unexpected way. Many people have gone through life telling the world about themselves. This book is a wake-up call for those. For those who specifically haven't been successful in business or in life.
The lessons in this book are presented in a logical fashion. The author has taken a proper scholastic approach. In each chapter, the reader is presented with a thesis. The author then provides a body of data to defend and explain the thesis. The author finishes with a conclusion that makes the thesis approachable to the reader.
This is a time-tested scholarly approach to writing that works extremely well with this subject matter. You will find yourself rethinking how you conduct business, relationships, even commuter trips. Read this book and learn to look deeper into the person you are speaking to. Make your conversations about being interesting and not just about yourself.
A remarkably original approach to self-help that will help anyone who picks up this book. A very good read and I recommend it to everyone.
My Rating: 5 stars
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Release date: October 1, 2020
I am a NY Times bestselling author of the Smartest series of books. My books have sold almost 400,000 copies.
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Reviewed by: Mr. N